• Miscellaneous


    3 October 2015

    Eval­u­at­ing the notion of ‘dress­ing up’ and dis­prov­ing the assump­tion that it has to be stress­ful.

    Albeit enjoy­able for a hand­ful, the entire notion of dress­ing up has a strange­ly stress­ful con­no­ta­tion attached to it, per­haps ground­ed in the pos­tu­la­tion that some­thing extra has to be done phys­i­cal­ly and one must step out­side their com­fort zone (which for some may be chang­ing from pyja­ma bot­toms into dress pants) to either impress or just mere­ly hide the fact that they woke up 10 min­utes before they need­ed to leave the house and they com­plete­ly for­got they had a wed­ding on that day. What­ev­er it may be, the idea of hav­ing to look nice has an under­ly­ing sense of dis­com­fort and unease. It’s the entire pri­vate school boy strict uni­form reg­i­ment of pol­ished shoes and tie pulled so close to the but­toned up col­lar of your ironed-shirt that you can bare­ly breathe as you con­stant­ly tuck your shirt into your long trousers on a hot sum­mer day. It’s the sub­con­scious fix­ing of your tie in fear of rep­ri­mand and the con­stant men­ac­ing looks by teach­ers when you have a scarf on indoors or a blaz­er some­where in your bag instead of sit­ting loose­ly on your pre-puber­ty body. What­ev­er jus­ti­fi­ca­tion may be used to ratio­nalise this con­stant pres­sure on stu­dents to look respectable as rep­re­sen­ta­tives of the school, the stig­ma and self-con­scious­ness lingers even years after grad­u­a­tion, and there needs to be a solu­tion.

    It all begins with draw­ing a dis­tinc­tion between dress­ing in some­thing you’re con­fi­dent in and dress­ing in order to gain con­fi­dence from the com­pli­ments of oth­ers, epit­o­mis­ing the entire mun­dane notion that looks are every­thing and that all oth­er aspects in your life will flow if you look ‘on point’. While that is true to an extent, because we live in a mate­ri­al­is­tic and aes­thet­ic-dri­ven soci­ety, there are a select few who have searched for alter­na­tives that boost con­fi­dence but don’t make you ques­tion every­thing when you find your­self awake at 3am rolling around in bed with melan­cholic thoughts. It’s the things usu­al­ly glossed over in the busy­ness of every­day life that ulti­mate­ly make the biggest dif­fer­ence. The eas­i­ly for­got­ten, yet essen­tial acces­sories you can use to accen­tu­ate what you already have rather than con­ceal the things you’re lack­ing.

    If there’s any­thing you take from this post, it’s that you don’t need all the gold and bling to make an impact or seem as though you have your life sort­ed. It’s the sim­plic­i­ty of an acces­soris­ing piece that mat­ters in a world full of noise and chaos. It doesn’t always have to be a facade. You just have to make the right choic­es.


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    • Ah what love­ly thoughts! I nev­er expe­ri­enced the school uni­form but I still feel like I can relate. We are all pres­sured to wear spe­cif­ic cloth­ing in our youth and let­ting go of that and sole­ly find your own style can be chal­leng­ing. But we def­i­nite­ly don’t need big bling bling acces­sorizes to stand out! 

      Sophie xx